Dealing With Loneliness After A Break Up 

Going through a breakup can leave you jaded, heartbroken and lonely.

You can’t stop thinking about him, especially when it seems like he’s moved on.

He told you he loved you, but now it feels like that was a lie and he didn’t love you as much as he said he did.

You feel like you don’t have any closure, and those hours spent alone after the breakup are the most torturous.

You keep obsessing about the last thing he said to you, analyzing his last texts, waiting for the phone to ring and it be him.

You distract yourself with work during the day, but when you have to go him, he’s all you think about.

Memories of the two of you, as a couple, haunt you, and you can’t seem to get away from them.

Why is it so painful?  It feels like you’re dying.

The loneliness feels permanent and unbearable.

Well, first I want to tell you that you’re not the only one that’s ever felt this way.

It is perfectly natural to feel depressed and lonely after a breakup.

The trick is to not let that loneliness and depression after a breakup, consume you.

Let me explain first, that the reason you’re feeling so lonely, a lot if it is biochemical.

Translation: it’s all in your head!

No, I’m not trying to be a smartass.  I know you’re in pain during this breakup, and I’m not trying to lessen that pain.

Take into consideration that when you’re with someone they compliment you in many ways, and make up for the ways in which you are lacking.

They’re like the ying to your yang.

A lot of times, when you’re a couple, you start to rely on this person to be your “better half”.

They supply you with the love you need and crave.

Then, all of the sudden, when you’re broken up, that love is gone.

You feel empty and the loneliness creeps in.

That love that once filled you up, now there is an empty bottomless pit.

So, what can you do about this?

Well, first you need to understand that your brain is trying to adjust to this sudden change.  That’s why after a breakup getting over someone you love is so difficult.

That’s where that biochemical mumbo-jumbo comes in.

Give your brain a break!  And stop beating yourself up.

Then, you have to take steps to start filling yourself up with love, again, to mend your broken heart.

You can start by loving yourself and doing the things that you did before the break up and even before the relationship.

Pick up hobbies you neglected during your relationship, or maybe there’s an activity you used to love, as a kid, that you can try for again.

Have gratitude for what you do have.  Start writing down the things that you are grateful for.

It can be as simple as, I love ice cream!  And I love my mom!

Feel the gratitude and let it heal your broken heart.

Embrace your new life as a single woman, and you will get over him in no time.

Remember, loneliness can be cured with gratitude, by loving yourself, and by staying active.

Here’s to healing your broken heart.

with gratitude,

Katya

katya@breakupadvice.com

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