Why “Waiting For Him” Is Pushing Him Away

 f04f2ced4c00758d71ca8b59a7293eeeWhat If You Simply Can’t Stop Thinking About Him?

Breakups can make you feel like you’re losing your sanity. You’re thinking about him constantly. You’re wondering when the pain will stop. A lot of times you can’t even imagine your life without him. It doesn’t seem to feel real.

Questions start coming up like, how do I get him back? Has he moved on? Does he still love me? You keep asking yourself these things but you can’t seem to get any answers.

While this is happening, you may feel like your life has come to a stand still. Work has become tedious, and you’ve become inefficient, or simply just really emotional all of the time, so you can’t get anything done. Time starts crawling at the speed of a snail and each morning you wake up heavy. And the truth is that you don’t even feel like you’re waking up, you feel like you’re walking around in a dream-state. Except it’s a nightmare, and it’s your life.

Wake Up!

The first thing I need you to do is to shake yourself awake. This is your life! And in order to get anywhere with your ex or without him, you’re going to have to take back control.

Taking back control means taking action. Waiting around for him leaves you in a vulnerable place. Don’t get me wrong, I think vulnerability is a beautiful thing. But in times where you feel powerless against your thoughts, feelings, and actions towards your ex, it’s best to toughen up.

Why Waiting Around For Him Will Only Push Him Away

Have you ever had a man wait around for you while you were dating? Like, you could tell that he was ready to drop everything to spend time with you, including his own responsibilities? If this has ever happened to you, can you tell me if this made you more or less attracted to him?

My guess is that the answer is you found him less attractive. Because no woman wants a man who doesn’t have his own mission and purpose in life. No woman wants a man who’s waiting around like a lonely little puppy dog.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

If You Want The Power Back In Your Relationship…

You’re going to have to stop waiting for him. You must take back your life, even if it’s hard.  If you want to get his attention, to get answers, to get whatever it is that you think you still want from him you will have to take back control and take action on your own life.

“Men thrive on the mystery of a woman.”

If you can’t seem to focus on your own life right now. if being an independent woman with her own goals and dreams is too much of a tall order at this moment when you’re in pain. Then do it for him. Take care of yourself, focus on your work, be outgoing & vivacious in the hopes that he will see you being all-that-and-a-bag-of-chips.

If you want him back, you have to do you to get his attention, because at the beginning… you know before this whole mess happened… That was how you got his attention in the first place. You were a mystery, you had your own thing, you were flirty and sexy.

Go be that! And hopefully with time you will find that you’re doing it for you and not just for him.

with gratitude,


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